As a result of the caller can’t see what you see, a “hiya,” delivered with that cadence that signifies it’s a query, won’t ever get you into bother.
However now that caller ID is so widespread, Miss Manners offers you her permission to greet a recognized caller by identify. So lengthy, that’s, as you don’t plan to comply with the greeting with an pressing, “I advised you to not name me this late!”
Pricey Miss Manners: Some time again, a good friend requested me for a advice for a handyman, which I obliged. Apparently, she and the handyman spoke about plenty of issues to be fastened, however he solely fastened just a few.
I got here to seek out out that the handyman noticed different gadgets that wanted to be fastened, and did so with out asking. My good friend turned fairly upset and refused to pay for these further gadgets, one being a sink that he claims was in horrible situation. Apparently they went backwards and forwards, and the handyman requested solely to be paid for the supplies used and never labor.
At this level, I turned conscious of the scenario. I commented to her that though he overstepped a bit, he was being useful and ought to be totally paid — particularly since she was, and nonetheless is, having fun with the fruits of his labor. She mentioned she would give it some thought.
We by no means spoke of this once more, however I then employed this man once more for a small job and discovered that she had refused to pay him. For sure, I used to be uncomfortable with him, and now her. Ought to I go away this alone or say one thing to my good friend?
Earlier than you say something to your good friend, allow us to assessment enterprise etiquette.
The client determines what she is going to purchase. Miss Manners believes this assertion to be absolute, no matter medical service suppliers might imagine. By altering one thing he was not requested to the touch, the handyman dedicated an moral breach. That cancels out any real concern he might have felt concerning the sink — concern that was already suspect, since he anticipated monetary achieve for fixing it.
There isn’t any requirement that your good friend pay the handyman for his unsolicited time or expense. However there’s additionally no prohibition in opposition to her doing so if an extended record of situations is met: that, looking back, your good friend is completely satisfied that the sink was finished; that the work was finished nicely; and that she believes the handyman’s intentions had been pure — or not less than as pure because the water that used to come back out of the sink.