Some readers interpreted my enthusiasm over preserving previous letters as an exhortation that Upset ought to stress her mom. Completely not. These letters belong to the recipient and their disposition ought to be utterly as much as her.
I obtained many responses, and at present’s column is dedicated to them.
Pricey Amy: My father served within the Navy in World Struggle II. He handed away in 1985, my mom in 1999. When she knew her time was nearing, she handed me a field of airmail letters, written by each throughout that point.
There have been cutouts within the letters, as they had been censored for safety functions, and so they additionally contained references to the musical artists and films of the time, and simply how “swell” issues had been again then!
What a treasure to have, and to know of the love they as soon as had for one another (however by no means appeared to show when my brothers and I had been rising up).
It gave me peace to know that they actually did love one another at one time.
Pricey Amy: I got here throughout my mother and father’ love letters whereas cleansing out their residence. My dad served throughout World Struggle II, then typically traveled the nation in search of work, all this time corresponding with Mother.
My mom treasured these letters for 70 years.
I by no means learn all of them and did not need to. They weren’t all candy and rosy.
There have been miscarriages, excessive monetary hardships and household turmoil.
These letters had been private, personal correspondences between my mother and father.
When my mother and father handed, they had been each cremated and buried in the identical vault, together with their love letters. It was the right ending.
Pricey Amy: Possibly “Upset Daughter’s” mother considers these letters too private for another person to learn.
I and my husband of 45 years have saved almost three years of correspondence from the years earlier than our transferring in collectively.
Despite the fact that I have never learn them in ages, I do know some are “racy,” and all are very private!
Although it is perhaps fascinating to learn the love letters of a homosexual couple from that point interval, I am unsure I would like my nieces and nephews studying these emotionally intimate letters.
Pricey Amy: My mother and father are lengthy since gone, and two of my dearest possessions are treasures that my mother saved.
One is a poem she wrote whereas dad was abroad throughout World Struggle II. It wasn’t racy, but it surely did point out “intercourse,” which might be the one time my candy mother (mom of six) uttered the phrase.
The opposite is my dad’s pocket diary. It had an image of my mother and the children — a number of names of his comrades — and a observe saying he had his orders for residence, thanking a God he had nearly stopped believing in!
My different prized possession is a e book compiled by a second cousin containing a whole lot of letters written by my great-great-grandfather to his beloved spouse as he struggled with life as a stretcher bearer and medic with the Ohio 34th Regiment throughout the Civil Struggle!
He wrote her nearly each day with issues typically trivial, typically dire, full with accountings of the place they had been on the time and who his commanding officers had been. Some letters dutifully paid homage to these lives misplaced that day.
Practically ALL of them signed with the identical closing, which appropriately grew to become the e book’s title: “In Love and Constancy.”
Pricey Amy: My mom wrote to my father day by day, besides one — the day my sister was born — whereas he served within the Pacific throughout World Struggle II.
He burned all of them, together with each one of many many he wrote — after she died once I was 16. It nonetheless hurts.
I hope “Upset’s” mom will save these letters.
— Nonetheless Unhappy Son, Alexandria, Virginia
Pricey Amy: When my mother died final yr, I discovered two letters she had written to my dad, when he was on an plane provider off the coast of Vietnam in 1967.
I used to be a child, not but strolling on the time. These letters gave me a glimpse into her life over 50 years earlier than, and I discovered them to be an incredible treasure. Save the letters!
2020 by Amy Dickinson distributed by Tribune Content material Company