She has referred to as the police on one other neighbor so many occasions that she’s forbidden to do it once more. The explanation? There have been three automobiles parked in his driveway. He has his daughter’s household staying with him, which she considers “a celebration.”
My dad and mom came visiting for my father’s birthday and she or he referred to as the police on us, reporting an “unsafe massive gathering spreading the virus.”
The 4 of us, all wholesome, had been sitting inside consuming cake. (And anyway, in our space, gatherings of 10 or fewer are thought-about fantastic.) She has additionally referred to as the police on lone joggers with no masks and gloves, regardless that she would not put on them.
She has now arrange video cameras conspicuously round her garden, considered one of which is pointing instantly at our home. She has commented that she will be able to see in our home windows and has berated us for not carrying a masks and gloves… in our own residence!
My husband has prompt that we begin mooning out the window. I would favor an answer that does not contain her having images of our bare backsides. I additionally do not need to be compelled to maintain the curtains closed.
How can we purpose with the unreasonable?
Covid Fishbowl: The reply is: You can not purpose with the unreasonable. So don’t attempt. You would possibly be capable to get that digicam off your home, nevertheless.
You must analysis state legal guidelines concerning privateness and video. You don’t essentially have an expectation of privateness whereas in your yard or driveway, however you do have an affordable expectation of privateness inside your personal house. You must contact a lawyer concerning your authorized treatments.
Primarily based on what you describe, this neighbor appears to have gone around the bend. The pandemic has proved a set off for numerous psychological diseases, and if she has dementia (as an example), she could also be fixated on the dangers she irrationally believes encompass her.
Dwell your life. Don’t “moon” her. Keep calm and well mannered if compelled to work together together with her. Think about what it should really feel prefer to be in such a state of rage over belongings you can’t management. Keep away from her and (if doable) really feel sorry for her.
Expensive Amy: My son has at all times come to our summer time cottage many occasions through the summer time months.
This yr, his girlfriend has a big canine.
We now have at all times had a rule that no canines are allowed.
Now my son and his girlfriend say that they won’t come, as a result of we do not permit canines on the cottage. This canine is noisy, sheds and leaves messes in all places. Thus, we’re sticking to our guidelines. Nonetheless, I like my son and am so harassed that they care extra concerning the canine than our father-son relationship.
We’re on the cottage solely 4 months and stay in Florida the remainder of the yr. We certain wish to see my son extra typically.
Confused Father: I doubt your son cares extra concerning the canine than you, however I feel it’s a protected guess that he’s extra invested in his girlfriend’s happiness than yours.
You and your son each appear to have laid down non-negotiables. After all, your son might go to you solo, however he doesn’t sound prepared to do this. You possibly can supply to allow them to go to with the canine one time to see if you’ll be able to tolerate having it there. In any other case, you have to to simply accept that for many individuals, girlfriends and canines are full-on relations, regardless of the challenges they current to precise relations.
Expensive Amy: You missed an necessary level to “Bi-Curious” in your response about bisexuality. Sexual orientation would not finish with marriage.
I’ve come out as bi/pan, regardless that I’ve been in a seemingly straight relationship with my husband for greater than 20 years. It’s a part of who I’m and would not go away with a hoop on my finger.
Claiming my entire identification helps others, sure, nevertheless it additionally helps me.
— Rena Dubin (use my identify — it is satisfaction month!)
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